I recently came across this very interesting Q&A in the Boston Globe:
Q. I am over 40 and work in a female-dominated field. I can’t even get an interview; younger female candidates get hired for jobs. I have years of experience and lose out to people with a fraction of my experience. What can I do besides getting a face lift and a sex change?
She’s obviously not the first person to have this question. We all have our own circumstances that we feel we can’t get out of.
Just as she feels her age is too old, there are many others who feel their younger age keeps them from jobs they can take on.
Others feel confined by their salary requirements.
Some feel the biggest impact when they try to shift gears into a new career and their resume doesn’t support the move.
So what can you do? You can stop worrying about what you can’t control and start focusing on what you can.
I love the response that was given in the article. This often starts with asking questions and probing on the reasons why you weren’t selected for a certain job vs. throwing a pity party.
I especially loved this piece of advice:
Instead of speculating, your focus should be to control what you can control, by gathering real feedback and information and committing to becoming the best job seeker you can. When someone tells you that you are not qualified for a specific role, you can say, “I am disappointed to hear that you don’t think I am qualified for this role. Can you tell me more about the skills you see that I have and the level you would need for this role?” Continue to probe if you can, especially if you are getting information that you can put to use.
What other advice would YOU give to the person asking this question?