If we’re being honest, we would all admit that some time or another we talk to ourselves – believe it or not, that could be good for your career!
One of the most common times for a little self-talk is when you’re driving to work on Monday morning, thinking out loud about what needs to be accomplished this week. Or maybe you’re replaying the weekend that just ended.
For some of us, this is a healthy, enjoyable moment. But for others, it’s a destructive experience with a negative impact on the week ahead.
What you say to yourself when alone, the conversations and conclusions you make about yourself and others, can make a positive or negative impact on how you perceive yourself – and thereby how you act and feel emotionally. It’s like the law of physics – what we focus on expands! So if the things you say are negative, you will feel overwhelmed or anxious. If you find yourself saying positive things, then your actions ahead will bear fruit.
So the key seems to be our focus. And to honestly assess whether or not your self-talk focus is in a healthy state, you should ask yourself the following:
- Am I focusing on the solutions or the obstacles?
- Am I focusing on the opportunities or the deficiency of others?
- Am I focusing on what I can change or what I can’t?
- Am I focused on how I can help others or what I can get out of others?
After answering these questions, what do you do if your answers suggest you’re focusing on the negative too much? After all, you can’t just tell yourself to “look at the glass half full.”
The answer is to FOCUS.
Let’s look at some examples.
Maybe you fear that your job might be eliminated. When talking to yourself through this situation, you must find some part of this situation that is positive. What if you focused on how grateful you are to have a coworker who is willing to talk with you after work and help you think of career options/opportunities? Having a friend who is willing to hear you out without judging you is definitely something to be thankful for during a hard time. By focusing on being grateful that you are not alone, your thoughts and feelings will take the first step toward positivity.
Like I said earlier, “what you focus on expands.” And gratefulness breeds positivity.
I once heard Tony Robinson, “Life Coach Extraordinaire”, say that you can’t be grateful and fear at the same time, nor can you be grateful and be angry at the same time.
Will learning to be grateful solve all your problems? No, but it will put you on a fast track of experiencing happiness while working through your career problems/opportunities.
So take note of your self-talk. Be kind to yourself and learn the art of gratefulness.
It will aid you well in providing a path to career happiness.